The Courtship Never Ends
The cycle of dating is cyclical, not linear
We often hear once a relationship fails, “She just isn’t the same person anymore” or “He just stopped trying”. Over time people change and when things go off the rails, it is not in a matter of weeks or sometimes even months, but for years. Some married men get lazy, get complacent, and stop pursuing their wives. They allow the flame of passion and romance to extinguish. The sad truth is that someone else will take your place if you do not date or court your wife. It can happen in some obvious or other more painful ways. This can include divorce or infidelity. The latter is just as crushing. Women have been bred by society and the media and now even social media to seek romance in the form of a love story. If women do not feel love, it is not easy for them to feel attraction. No love story. Low to no attraction. You want passion, not to be sharing a space.
I will tell you a bigger secret. When a woman feels heard and understood, she is very much loving and open. One thing that is common amongst both genders is the fact that actions speak louder than words. We love and respect people whose actions align with their words. We all hate empty and broken promises. Nothing lets us down more than getting our hopes up repeatedly only to have them dashed. For a woman to trust a man’s masculine core, he can’t be someone who constantly says one thing but then does another. A woman gets to the point where she simply doesn’t believe you anymore.
You can’t force someone to change or to act how you want them to act. If someone tells you that they want you, or they want to spend more time with you, then you all them to demonstrate that. When they don’t, you assume one of two things. Either they do not want to or they do not have the time to. It’s all very simple. If you don’t date your woman or make her feel heard and understood, you will get chances, but once those chances run out, then the relationship expires. It is a very predictable end.
The solution is and always will be good communication. That coupled with congruent action will make you a force in life overall. The sad truth is that more than 70% of women are the ones who file for divorce.
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